Interesting thought

[groovychk]

Remember that love is a choice, an action and a commitment, it is not a feeling.
That nice hormonal rush you feel at the beginning will NOT last.
If you think that love is a 'feeling', and you lose the feeling, you're not going to work at it. I mean, why bother? You're not 'in love' any more.

Comments

[hwrnmnbsol.livejournal.com]

Hmm. I mostly agree. Maybe I completely agree I'm just stating it a different way:

I agree that love is a choice, and an action, and a commitment.

I think that feelings of love are also part and parcel of the whole. IF you choose love, and make the commitment, and give and receive, THEN you can receive those feelings. And if both members of the affair keep up their end of the bargain, those feelings of love can persist through a long and happy relationship. It would be fair to say that WITHOUT those feelings of love, it wouldn't be much of an enjoyable state to seek out.

But, if one or both persons fails to keep to the terms of the 'contract', then the feelings of being in love will not persist.

So, I agree with your last statement: if you believe your feelings of love are the sum total of what love is about, and you and your partner don't have to do any more than just feel in love, then you are in for a rocky ride. You have to see love as a decision, as a proactive choice to improve two lives by joining together.

But you have to feel it too! Otherwise it's not 'love', it's a 'Limited Liability Partnership'. ;)

[ex-clutchypo221.livejournal.com]

i've been wondering about it for a while. i think there's "love" and then there's what you get into. i think lately it's incalculable fluidity, it's success based on being open, honest, and happy. there's as many versions as there are couples.

my resolution for next year is to kiss some frogs. just as soon as i get over my fear of it.